Things Happen in Unexpected Places

Today went a little better than yesterday. This morning I woke myself crying uncontrollably in my sleep because of a dream I was having. After mentally calming myself down, the shaking began to subside. I made myself a cup of coffee and watched the news, then went about the things I had to do for the day. I was doing my best to not let things get to me today and succeeded for the most part.

After volunteering at my child’s school, I went home to help them with homework. Before going to Boy Scouts, I realized that we needed something from the store. Typically, I would go before going to Scouts, but my children and I didn’t make it out the door in time because we were finishing homework. On our way home, we stopped at the dollar store. This is where an unexpected incident happened.

I was waiting in line to check out. There was a gentleman in line who let another lady and myself go ahead of him. The lady in front of me was talking with the lady in front of her as well as the cashier, and I ended up in the conversation somehow. I had never seen these women before in my life. We started talking about a medical disorder, I said something about me having medical experience and understanding what they meant, and things just went from there. This is where I don’t understand how things went from one topic to another.

After both ladies had checked out, the lady immediately in front of me continued to talk. We talked about so much in just those few minutes. The lady introduced herself to me and asked what I currently do (for work). I told her that I am between jobs right now and doing freelance writing and other odd jobs. This is when she told me that she can connect me with someone who may be able to help me and told me to contact her. We talked for a few more minutes in the front of the store, and even through the parking lot as we were walking to our vehicles. The conversation went to various unrelated topics throughout those few short minutes. It was strange, but it felt as though it was meant to be.

I feel as though I was meant to go to that particular store this evening, as it is not a typical stop on my way home. She even made the same comment about it being meant for her as well. I can’t wait to call her tomorrow and see where this goes. I guess never underestimate an unexpected trip to the store because you just never know what will happen.

Searching for My Sanity

Today has been one of those days where I just felt like curling into a ball in the corner and crying all day. It has been difficult to stay strong in front of my boys, but I pulled it off somehow. Now that they’re in bed fast asleep, I can let the tears flow. There is so much running through my mind. I feel like a complete and total failure at everything I try to do. I feel like I am letting my boys down. I feel like I have lost myself in my journey, and I can’t seem to find my way back to the path I so desperately yearn to be on.

My children are forced to visit with their father, who abandoned them for several years. My teenage son, who is supposed to be living with his father, is instead living with his girlfriend because of his father’s wife. I lost more than one home because of my children’s abusive, controlling and conniving father and his family. I lost my job several months ago and have been living off of minimal unemployment and working odd jobs just to not even barely get by. My job search has not been going well at all, regardless of how hard I try. The debt just keeps piling up more and more as the days go by. I feel as though I can’t even afford to breathe.

I know that things will get better eventually. I just wish I could at least see a glimmer of light ahead instead of more turmoil and heartache. My boys have been involved in various extracurricular activities over the years, but this year I fear they won’t be able to participate because of my finances. I don’t know how to tell them without breaking their hearts, which will break mine even more. Their father does not help pay for any of their activities or schooling, nor does he approve of anything they choose to participate in (he calls my middle school son a “band geek”, and says that Boy Scouts is “not worth doing” for my elementary age son). He doesn’t even pay the child support he is ordered to pay. We were in court last summer for his lack of paying. He was given the opportunity to “purge” himself in lieu of being charged with contempt. Well, instead of him doing what he agreed to in court, he had the monthly child support reevaluated which end up being decreased and he is still not paying. My search for an attorney to help my family has proven fruitless because I cannot afford their fees (and none in my area do free consultations either). My local legal aid office claims they can’t help me because I am not the defendant. I just don’t know where to turn for help.

One day, I know that I will come out on top and leave all of this turmoil behind me. I just wish that day would come sooner rather than later. I want to get ahead in life and be able to provide for my children instead of having to pull them from their activities because of my finances. I want to be able to help them through college so they aren’t buried in student loan debt.

I keep trying to stay positive, but that is getting more and more difficult as the days go by. I am getting to the point where I don’t want to leave the house, and I don’t even want to be around myself because of my mood swings. I try not to lash out at those around me. Most of the time it is best for me to just say nothing at all so I don’t say the wrong thing and hurt those around me that I love and would give my life for.

I know this post is all over the place, but that’s just how my mind is at the moment. I don’t want anyone to get the wrong and think that I am going to do something foolish because I would never dream of it. My children need me in their lives. I know that there is a reason for me to be on this earth and that I am going through all of this right now to give me strength and test my will (not sure how much more testing of strength and will is needed though).

Tomorrow is new day, hopefully a happy one instead of me being in tears. My goal is to do something good for someone and make them smile. That, in itself, will do my heart some good, even if just for a little while.